Collection: Strap-ons

Choosing a Strap-On — Harnesses, Dildos & Fit Explained

A strap-on system combines a harness worn around the hips with a dildo attached to the front — allowing the wearer to penetrate their partner regardless of anatomy. They're popular across all genders and orientations: for pegging (a woman penetrating a man anally), lesbian couples, trans and non-binary play, and anyone who wants to add a different kind of penetration to their sex life. Some complete kits include a matching harness and dildo; others are sold separately so you can mix and match to suit your preferences.

Harness fit and style matter as much as the dildo itself. Adjustable strap harnesses are the most common and versatile — they fit a wide range of body sizes, hold securely during use, and work with most O-ring compatible dildos. Look for wide, padded straps and a sturdy O-ring (most accept dildos with a 3.8cm / 1.5" base diameter). Brief-style or boxer harnesses feel more like underwear and suit people who prefer a less strappy look. Strapless strap-ons (also called feeldoes or double-ended designs) are worn without a harness — a bulb sits inside the wearer's vagina while the external shaft is used for penetration, providing stimulation for both partners simultaneously. These require strong pelvic floor muscles to hold in place.

For the dildo, platinum silicone is the material of choice — firm enough to stay in position, body-safe, easy to clean, and available in a range of realistic and non-realistic shapes. Start with a moderate size for pegging — a beginner's anal dildo is typically 13–15cm and slimmer than average. Always use water-based lubricant generously for anal play, and clean the harness and dildo thoroughly after every use.