Collection: Dildos

How to Choose a Dildo — Shape, Size & Material Explained

A dildo is the simplest and most versatile sex toy: a penetrative toy designed purely for the pleasure of insertion and movement, without electronics or batteries. That simplicity is exactly the point — no charging, no settings, just the size, shape and material you want. With such a wide range available, the choice comes down to three things: size, shape, and material.

Size is the most personal factor. First-timers generally do best starting at or below average — around 14–16cm length and 3.5–4cm girth — and working up from there once they know what their body enjoys. Realistic dildos mimic the look and feel of a penis, with a defined head, shaft texture, and veining. Smooth dildos prioritise comfort and are easier to manoeuvre for G-spot or prostate targeting. Curved dildos are specifically shaped to angle toward the G-spot or P-spot without effort. Big dildos and double-ended dildos serve more specific needs — size play and simultaneous penetration respectively.

On material: platinum silicone is the gold standard — body-safe, non-porous, easy to sterilise, and available in a wide firmness range from soft and flexible to near-rigid. Glass dildos are firm, smooth, non-porous, and excellent for temperature play — they can be warmed in hot water or cooled in the fridge before use. Stainless steel is the heaviest and most rigid option, with a naturally cool surface and extreme durability. All three materials can be fully sterilised between partners. Always pair a dildo with water-based lubricant (silicone lube is not compatible with silicone toys) and clean thoroughly after every use.